How Do I Deal with Someone Who Does Drugs?
Sometimes people do not realize that drug addiction does not just affect the person on drugs, but it affects those around him or her as well. Drug addiction is a common enemy that goes after a specific target and all innocent bystanders. It knows no boundaries. How do you deal with someone who is addicted to drugs, especially when their drug addiction is affecting areas of your own life?
First, you have to think of yourself. Do not become an enabler. By making excuses, by being afraid to “set him off," you are, in fact, enabling him. Keep the household money away from him. Do not give in to his demands for drugs or alcohol. Refuse to make excuses for him to others. Let him take responsibility for his own actions.
Admit to yourself that there is a problem. It is hard enough that the one addicted to drugs has a hard time with denial, but the truth is that sometimes those around him deny it to themselves as well. It is hard to comprehend sometimes that those we are the closest to are the ones who will hurt themselves the worse, but it does happen.
Your immediate response may even be to give him ultimatums. While this can be good, it is imperative that you do so in the proper way, otherwise, honestly? A situation of domestic violence could possibly occur. This is what you should do: call a helpline and get professional advice from someone who has experience in this. You are wading through foreign territory, and you need to know what to do. The intake counselor will set you up with a professional who can do an intervention for your family. This is the best course to take most of the time. With this route, there are better chances of success without an argument escalating and often times it is set up for the person who is addicted to go right into rehab following the intervention.
It is important to know that not only your loved one will be getting help but so will you. There are support groups set up for people who are close to someone with a drug or alcohol problem. There you will be in the company of others who know how you feel and can offer support and advice. You will learn that you are not alone, and you will build your own armor to beat the addiction that has taken over not only your loved one but the entire family.
How do you deal with someone who does drugs? You do not enable him; you seek advice, and you get help for him and support for yourself as well. It can be done and ALL of you deserve it.